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  • “Sleight of Mouth” by Robert Dilts
    This book teaches linguistic strategies designed to transform the perception created by what the author calls “beliefs”. Such techniques, as well as Dilts’ so-called logical or neurological levels, are not to be considered pure NLP, but exploit some of its principles that are explained with simplicity and clarity throughout the book. “Sleight of Mouth” is then well suited to those who wish to assimilate some initial NLP concepts and know how to use words to support themselves and others. There are some complex passages, however for the most part this is a perfect text for the general public. I recommend the original English version.
  • “The Structure of Magic - Vol I” by Richard Bandler and John Grinder
    Frank Pucelik, Richard Bandler and John Grinder are considered the three founders of neuro-linguistic programming. Before this discipline took shape, Bandler and Grinder enshrined its foundations, so to speak, in this first text, which contains perhaps the most famous work model of NLP: the “Metamodel”. This model allows us to recognize precise patterns present in our language, offering strategies for intervention where it is precisely our use of words that makes us see a given situation or context as a problem or limitation. Although the Metamodel is taught in a very usable and effective way in courses, and the authors themselves consider some concepts in the book outdated, I find “The Structure of Magic” to be a must-have cornerstone for anyone interested in the purest and most formal NLP. The writing style is very precise and clean on the one hand, but highly technical on the other, and may not be easy if unaccustomed. I highly recommend the English version.
  • “Using Your Brain For a Change” by Richard Bandler
    This text analyzes the concept of submodalities in NLP. It is a real handbook taking us to discover the sensory structure of our thoughts. It makes the reader experience that change happens easily by playing with how we think about things, rather than what we think about. I always recommend the original English version.
  • “If I don’t touch you, there is nothing I can do to make you feel anything. Anything!” This is by far one of my favorite quotes by John Grinder. The first video on the list, titled “Back to Basics”, examines precisely the “cause-effect” principle inherent in everyday language, simple and powerful when understood thoroughly.
    https://youtu.be/t5eSo4mgQ4g Back to Basics
    https://youtu.be/3n9uUXNg9h0 Anchoring
    https://youtu.be/q-1j3Q-mQC4 Installing a filter
    https://youtu.be/uWpDbV1rXt0 Differences between Classic and New Code NLP
    https://youtu.be/L0GJjVwAvfw Turning pain into a signal
    https://youtu.be/G4vgZmEBC2k Double dissociation and treatment of a phobia
  • If you are interested in NLP and coaching, Steve Andreas’ vast experience and expertise may be for you. Below I suggest books, videos and websites where Steve has left his mark:
    • “Transforming Negative Self-Talk” is a book full of concrete strategies for managing one’s internal dialogue and contains a number of suggestions for carrying out a coaching process.
    • https://www.andreasnlp.com/store/nlp-training-videos/ is where you can purchase videos of some of the coaching sessions conducted by Steve, for which free previews are available on youtube.
    • https://youtu.be/BXNRdASZTk0 is a 10-minute session in which Steve solves an anxiety problem of one of his clients.
    • https://youtu.be/JiVEfkUIuMI contains suggestions on how to manage one’s internal dialogue.
    • https://youtu.be/csfEX0qmpwg presents Steve’s arguments on how brain science does not coincide with therapy.
    • https://youtu.be/mss8dndyakQ is the application of a submodality-based strategy that Steve uses to treat a bee phobia.
    • https://youtu.be/TjjCzhrYJDQ presents a follow-up test where, 25 years after the above video, the person previously suffering from phobia toward bees testifies about her experience.
  • Raffaele Morelli is an Italian psychiatrist and psychotherapist. I know him mainly through youtube and his books. Beyond his style, I was impressed by several concepts he discusses, such as the use of images in self-management, deep acceptance of our states of mind, the focus on the present, the power of manual activity, the non-mono-polarity of the mind, being a thousand characters, the non-need to put things right, perceiving our emotions without telling us anything. Below are some of the videos I enjoy the most:
    https://youtu.be/EoBWSU0aoGk
    https://youtu.be/jSaCXd4Yb8A
    https://youtu.be/yAUO4OCZnWU
    https://youtu.be/TK-YNIuafMk
    https://youtu.be/tHo4VeKeev0
    https://youtu.be/kMbOWCK7Plo
    https://youtu.be/sYGHnxaiV3U
  • “What I Know Now” is a podcast by Amelia Liana in which in the first few episodes she tells her experience after being left by her partner shortly before marriage. Extremely honest and open, she recounts her thoughts, emotions, and the actions she chose to take. Some episodes feature guests, such as relationship coach Shelley J. Whitehead, who provides practical advice on how to deal with circumstances similar to Amelia’s.
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/4IECKhqnOf5PkILBixtQuI
  • Nicole Emma in this Ted Talk discusses what her job as a sex worker consists of, telling us some of her thoughts on the link between violence and teaching models: https://youtu.be/r7xLfeTytns
  • Umberto Galimberti is an Italian philosopher and psychoanalyst. I am not necessarily aligned with some of his views, but I certainly find his interventions highly stimulating: https://youtu.be/jRCrgo1Bh4c
  • Simone Volpi is a coach and NLP trainer. On his social media, you can find a lot of high-level training and personal growth content. In particular, he is the author of the book “Leadership Essenziale”, which collects and condenses dozens and dozens of practical strategies and techniques drawn from NLP, coaching, psychology, and more for evolving as an individual and as a company.
    https://www.simonevolpi.com
    https://www.youtube.com/@SIMONEVOLPI1/videos
  • Bruno Mendo is a psychologist and NLP trainer. What sets him apart is his unparalleled precision in the exposition of concepts. The topic that is closest to his heart is that of relationships. Several of his videos concern the toxic beliefs about relationships that still persist nowadays, explain the physical, chemical, biological, and psychological mechanisms that regulate our behavior when we relate to each other, offer considerations and strategies for experiencing relationships in a more authentic and fulfilling way.
    https://www.youtube.com/@DrBrunoMendo
    https://www.facebook.com/100006312610995/videos/2598726817014380/ Relationships
  • Federica Anastasia is a psychologist from Trieste who particularly impressed me with her series “How to Close Well”. According to her point of view, people often invest much more energy at the beginning of a relationship, a job, or a new chapter in life than at its end. For example, it happens that we give a thousand percent at the beginning of a love story, but when it finishes we wish to act fast, almost as if we do not want to feel the emotions of this phase, we desire to move on immediately, no matter how. Instead, Dr. Anastasia argues that good closures need proper attention and care. She talks about this in specific webinars available on youtube or on the Facebook group “Progetto SDEF”. In addition, she is a proponent of the VIP method, an attitude for dealing with and overcoming difficult situations that involves living fully the present condition (Vivere), grasping all there is to learn (Imparare), and only then moving forward (Proseguire).
    https://youtu.be/F_GXudgrzGU How to close well with narcissism
    https://www.facebook.com/100006312610995/videos/2703354906551570/ How to close well with narcissism
    https://www.facebook.com/100006312610995/videos/2746965708857156/ How to close well with the past
  • Liliana Segre’s speeches are precious and powerful fragments of our history: 
    www.youtube.com/watch?v=I23kb5gzCUM European Parliament, January 29, 2020
    www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARwx3MxyzZc Liliana Segre’s final testimony